Counseling isn’t just for people who are suffering or struggling with illness; anyone who wants to improve their quality of life and feel happier can benefit from it.
Many clients feel that counseling is only meaningful if they come in every week because something painful or upsetting has happened to them; but my question is, can’t counseling be helpful even without these events as a catalyst?
Is it possible that, in our everyday relationships, we also feel we have to “offer something” in order to get along with others?
You feel that if you don’t have something to offer in return, you aren’t worthy of—or shouldn’t be—interacting with others. Is it possible that in some relationships, you don’t have to constantly prove your worth to enjoy a comfortable, secure connection?
When we are no longer constantly anxious about what topics to bring up during counseling, it is very likely that we can also find a relaxed, comfortable relationship based on unconditional trust in our daily lives.
Xu Feili Counseling Psychologist
Specializes in addressing early life experiences, trauma from the family of origin, and internal psychological conflicts, helping clients find a clearer path in their emotions, relationships, and self-understanding. Her areas of expertise include anxiety, depression, impulses toward self-harm, anger and compulsive behavior management, trauma therapy, grief and loss, family and intimate relationships, parent-child communication, as well as career adaptation and exploration. With diverse practical experience in school, community, clinic, and employee assistance program settings, and having completed professional training in Gestalt psychotherapy, I am able to support clients in a gentle yet professional manner as they integrate their sense of self, understand their inner conflicts, and make more appropriate choices in their lives.
